Divorce Coaching and Divorce Mediation: Perfect Together

Divorce mediators in New Jersey meet with those who are contemplating a divorce, those in the middle of their divorce having come from another mediator or perhaps a lawyer driven process and those seeking assistance for post-divorce issues such as parenting plan modification, child support modification or spousal support modification.   But no matter which phase of the divorce process clients find themselves in, going through it can be a stressful and emotionally charged situation for both parties involved.

While mediation can help you handle the legal and financial issues you face, working with a divorce coach will help you manage the emotions you face both during your time in mediation as well as after you are finished with it.   When you’re in the middle of a divorce, it seems like your world has ended and that there is no path forward worth pursuing.  But life does and will go on and so it’s important to me that you get the help you need to build a path towards your future and realize that your life doesn’t have to end with a divorce.

That’s why divorce coaching and divorce mediation work so well together.  By working with both a divorce coach and a divorce mediator you’ll be able to work through all of the issues that come into play be they pre-divorce, during divorce or post-divorce in a calm and rational manner moving yourself from emotion based thinking to logic based thinking.  This has two benefits.  First by making decisions in a calm and rational manner you can truly begin to understand the impact these decisions have on both of you and you children.  It becomes less about winning and getting everything you can and more about what do I need to be happy and making a plan to get there.  Second it allows you to remove yourself from the toxic swirl some people find themselves in during a divorce which can drag them down to the depths of despair and make them lose sight of what’s really important.  You want to define your divorce, not have your divorce define you.

But regardless of what path you take to divorce be it the preferred alternative of mediation or the more contentious route of collaborative divorce or litigation, one thing is clear: working with a divorce coach will benefit you before, during and after your divorce.  Long after the final papers are signed and you’re now finding yourself living the life you always knew you were meant to live, you’ll be thankful you worked with a divorce coach to get your priorities in order, figure out what was important to you and executed a plan to get there.   Divorce doesn’t have to be difficult and recovering from a divorce doesn’t have to be either.  With a little inner-work and reflection combined with the helpful partnership of a divorce coach, you’ll be able to see your future and get there in no time, even though at this moment, things may not be exactly clear.

Cheryl Dillon is a Divorce and Life Reinvention Coach and Managing Partner of Equitable Mediation Services.  She can be reached at (908) 864-2177.

Equitable Mediation Now Offers Divorce Coaching

While divorce mediation can help you handle the legal and financial aspects of a divorce, there is still one very important piece of the puzzle to work on: the emotional one.  Divorce brings with it a host of emotions that when left unresolved can really hamper your recovery.  Certainly getting what you believe to be a fair and equitable distribution of your marital assets and liabilities or an adequate amount of spousal support that will allow you to live a reasonably comfortable lifestyle is a great start towards building your new life.  But what about your hopes and dreams, the things you wanted for yourself and the feelings of sadness, fear and resentment you may be feeling?  All of those are just as important to work through as some financial settlement, don’t you agree? That’s where divorce coaching can really help.

With that in mind, we here at Equitable Mediation are pleased to welcome the newest member of our firm, Divorce Coach Cheryl Dillon.  For those of you clever enough to figure it out and in the spirit of full disclosure, Cheryl is my wife and knowing her as well as I do, I couldn’t think of a better person to be your divorce coach and help you through your time of need than she.  Cheryl was divorced herself (thankfully she used a mediator but not Equitable Mediation Services mind you!) and understands fully the range of emotions you are feeling as she went through the entire spectrum as well.   But if there’s one thing I know from my time with Cheryl it’s that she got the help she needed in the form of a champion and did the tough “inner-work” that is absolutely required in order to move forward with your life.  Was it easy?  Of course not but while it may not seem like it now, she believed (and I hope you do too) that things can and will get better if you just work at them.

We all have days where we don’t feel like getting out of bed and when you’re in the middle of a divorce, that might feel like every day.  But with the help of a divorce coach, you can get past those feelings of hopelessness and work together to build a plan for your present and your future.  To help you get started, we are offering all of our readers a complimentary coaching session with Cheryl.  Divorce coaching isn’t for everyone and you do have to be ready to put in the work that is required to make lasting and noticeable progress so if you’re not sure divorce coaching is right for you, we invite you to take our quiz which can be found here: Is divorce coaching right for you?

Once you’ve had a chance to review your results, please feel free to reach our to Cheryl directly at (908) 864-2177 as I’m sure she’d be happy to talk with you and see if divorce coaching is right for you.  As I’ve said before, it is our goal and our promise to help you get through your divorce as peacefully, efficiently and with as little impact on you and your family as possible and the addition of divorce coaching is just one more way we hope to help you do that.

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