Divorce Mediation is a Confidential Process in NJ

You see it all the time.as the latest celebrity divorce hits the headlines with the sordid details of some extra-marital affair or other piece or dirty laundry aired out for all the world to see.  Yet for as much as this NJ divorce mediator tries to tell everyone he can get to listen, some people still don’t understand about the benefits of divorce mediation.  Our latest victim is NBA star Allen Iverson who’s recent split from his wife seemed to be heading down the more peaceful and efficient path of divorce mediation until something tripped things up and suddenly, they were litigating.  No longer were they going to enjoy the confidential process of divorce mediation but by doing so instead became tabloid fodder as they decided to litigate their divorce.  After all the recent celebrity splits we’ve seen, you have to think they knew what would happen yet if they had followed through and used divorce mediation, the process would have remained behind closed doors.

Here at Equitable Mediation Services we know that your divorce is a sensitive topic and while you may not be a celebrity, it’s not really a topic you want others knowing much about.  Client couples who come to see me often forget that courtrooms are public spaces and anyone can enter one at any time.  And while the chances may be slim, how many of us have that “nosy neighbor” who likes to get into everybody’s business and would just show up and sit in the back of the courtroom to revel in your misery?   With divorce mediation it’s different.  The entire proceedings are held in a closed room with only each party and the NJ divorce mediator present.  All issues are worked out in private and any details of the proceedings are only discussed outside the four walls by you, not me.  There are a number of benefits to divorce mediation confidentiality:

1. No one knows about your divorce except you and your spouse.
2. Without an audience, I’ve found the negotiations go a lot more peacefully.
3. You can try things in divorce mediation that you may not wish to try in an open courtroom.  When the process is confidential and the parties know they have the freedom to take chances and discuss things they might not bring up in open court, the Memorandum of Understanding is a much better agreement as it reflects the true desires and agreements of the parties – not ones manufactured and forced upon them by their attorney’s or a judge.

If you have any questions about divorce mediation in NJ using mediation for divorce or how hiring a NJ divorce mediator can benefit you, please feel free to contact Equitable Mediation Services to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation in one of our nine North or Central New Jersey office locations.  Or feel free to visit the Equitable Mediation Services website where you’ll find lots of great information about parenting plans, equitable distribution, NJ child support and spousal support / alimony and contact us when you’re ready.