NJ Divorce Mediation Can Help You Make An Informed Decision

When the time comes for a couple to seek a NJ divorce mediation service such as Equitable Mediation Services, chances are they’ve fallen into a pattern of dysfunctional interpersonal relations and that communicating over even the simplest things becomes a difficult and contentious process.  But like the old saying goes “information is power” and so if you can’t communicate and you need information in order to make informed decisions about your future during divorce mediation sessions and for your life after your divorce, then how ever are you going to get it?  The answer? NJ divorce mediation.  Much like when we were younger and we were sent to the Principal’s office, we did our best to behave and answer the questions that were directed to us even though we really didn’t want to.  We knew that in order to remove ourselves from the current uncomfortable situation we had to respond and open up as to what we were thinking or feeling.  The same holds true for divorce mediation.  By gathering data through our document discovery process, asking uncomfortable questions and engaging in an open and honest dialogue during our mediation sessions, we hope to provide client couples with the information they both need from each other in order to make an informed decision and help them move past the uncomfortableness of the situation.

As a NJ divorce mediator when engaging in divorce mediation sessions, it is never my goal to make someone intentionally uncomfortable but the topics we discuss do make people uncomfortable but are a necessary part of the process.   To get past this, we start small with topics most couples can agree on and build on the success of early victories.  As some couples have been fighting for the better part of their lives so getting them to agree on something minor can actually be a big step towards opening up dialogue, getting them to work together and showing them that they can still come to agreements that they can both live with.  Given you’re seeing a NJ divorce mediator the chances are great that you haven’t been getting along too well lately and you’re bound to have some disagreements.  But if you can get the information out on the table and work through your uncomfortableness, I promise you you’ll be in a much better place to begin the natural healing process that so desperately needs to begin but only if you use a divorce mediation service.  If you choose to continue the fight and go with the more contentious and litigious process of hiring attorneys or engaging in a collaborative divorce, then I’m sorry to say but you’re on your own…

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If you have any questions about divorce mediation in NJ or how working with a NJ divorce mediator can benefit you, please feel free to contact Equitable Mediation Services to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation in one of our nine North or Central New Jersey office locations.  Or feel free to visit the Equitable Mediation Services website where you’ll find lots of great information about parenting plans, equitable distribution, NJ child support and spousal support / alimony and contact us when you’re ready.