Equitable Mediation Services Now Offers Divorce Mediation in Livingston NJ

Equitable Mediation Services is a New Jersey divorce mediation practice serving divorcing couples and their children with both traditional divorce mediation as well as post divorce parent coordination services in Somerset, Mercer, Middlesex, Essex, Morris, and Hunterdon counties and has now brought its practice to the Livingston area with its newest office in Roseland.  Located at 101 Eisenhower Parkway, Suite 300 in Roseland NJ, Equitable Mediation Services is committed to helping you and your family get through your divorce with as little impact to everyone as possible and being there when you need us and where you need us is just one of the many ways we can help.  We understand you’ve got enough on your mind and finding a caring, professional and accredited divorce mediator in New Jersey is the last thing you want to worry about so that’s why we make every attempt to bring our practice to a location near you.

You’ll get the same high quality and personalized services that all of our clients have experienced as all mediation sessions are conducted by Accredited NJ Divorce Mediator Joseph F. Dillon with the experience, care and understanding that such a situation requires.  We know that when couples are more relaxed in a setting that is convenient to them, better results are achieved and a better agreement is produced reducing difficulties in both the short and long term which is paramount to any divorcing couples success, especially if they have children.  Divorce is difficult enough so bringing our services closer to you in the Livingston area is one of the many ways we try to make it a little bit easier on you and your family.  If you’re looking for divorce mediation services in Livingston NJ then you’ve come to the right place.

If you have any questions about divorce mediation or how mediation can benefit you, please feel free to contact us to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation in our Livingston area office where we will take some time to get to know more about you and your situation and see if mediation is right for you.  Of if you’re simply not ready yet, feel free to visit the Equitable Mediation Services website where you’ll find lots of great information about parenting plans, equitable distribution, NJ child support and spousal support / alimony and contact us when you’re ready.  We look forward to helping you get through your divorce peacefully, efficiently and with as little stress on you and your family as possible and look forward to hearing from you when you’re ready.

NJ Divorce Mediation Equitable Distribution and Fairness

If you gave 100 people a dollar and asked them to “divide it fairly” what do you think they would do?  Would one of them keep all of it or would they be more likely to split it 50/50, each taking half?  Couples using divorce mediation in New Jersey face a similar question when it comes to the concept of equitable distribution as when they use divorce mediation to settle their differences, how they choose to divide their assets and liabilities is up to them.  Similarly, NJ divorce mediation allows couples to determine what they feel is fair and equitable, even though each parties list of assets and liabilities may not add up evenly.  What if I told you one of the people I asked to divide the dollar was not from this country?  Do you think giving a citizen of say Germany $0.50 would do them any good?  Probably not.  You see with divorce mediation, it is up to the individuals to determine what is fair and equitable and with the help of an accredited New Jersey divorce mediator, they can come to an agreement that works for them.  What if one party wishes to purchase a new home and they need cash for a down payment?  They may be more willing to trade retirement savings and investment accounts for a checking or savings account that may be more liquid and allow them to put a down payment on a new living space.  Similarly, perhaps one party is close to retirement and instead of having to start all over at age 55 saving for their golden years, is willing to forgo their interest in the marital home in exchange for keeping their 401(k).  All of these decisions are yours to make but only if you use divorce mediation.

In mediation we use the concept of “bargaining from positions versus interests” in which we try to avoid having one party simply argue for something just because they are entrenched in that position and aren’t really sure why they want or need that particular item.  Instead with couples using our mediation services, we take the time to explore their options, determine what the parties mutual and well as individual interests and goals are and help them make decisions to achieve those goals.  Sometimes the road ahead is not so clear but with the help of a NJ divorce mediator, it can be.  So before you proceed with your divorce, ask yourself the following three questions:

1. What are my short term and long term goals after I am divorced?
2. What is it that I absolutely have to have in order to achieve them?
3. What is it that I am willing to offer to my soon to be ex-spouse in order to realize these goals?

Once you can answer these three things, you’ll be in a much better position to settle your divorce and make your own decision about equitable distribution and what is fair to you.

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Joseph Dillon is a Professional Accredited Divorce Mediator in NJ and the owner of Equitable Mediation Services a New Jersey divorce mediation practice serving Somerset, Mercer, Middlesex, Essex, Morris, Union and Hunterdon counties including the towns of Edison, Parsippany, East Brunswick, West Orange, Bridgewater, South Brunswick, Hillsborough, Livingston, Randolph, Maplewood, West Windsor, Summit, Plainsboro, Millburn, Morristown, Montgomery, Madison, Readington, Branchburg, Warren, Princeton, Metuchen, Lawrenceville, Pennington, Short Hills, Bernards, Bedminster and surrounding areas.

Are You Ready for NJ Divorce Mediation?

At this time of year, I get many calls at Equitable Mediation Services from folks interested in learning more about divorce mediation in New Jersey.  Typically their questions involve things like “how do I get started” or “can I schedule an appointment to come talk to you” but before that, we need to answer the most important question of all: are you ready for divorce mediation?  You see unlike the typical adversarial process of hiring a lawyer and litigating, divorce mediation is different in a good way.  Because divorce mediation is a voluntary process in which all participants (the client couple as well as the NJ divorce mediator) are there by their own choosing, the decision to divorce must be made and agreed upon by both parties.  As a Divorce Mediator in NJ I cannot compel either of you to come to mediation nor will I call your spouse on your behalf and ask them to agree to come to a free consultation.  So while I welcome your call and am always happy to answer any questions you might have about divorce mediation or the mediation process, because of my role as a neutral third party, I cannot schedule an appointment with just one of you, I need to see both of you.

So how do you know if you’re ready? Ask yourself this one question: are we both in agreement with the decision to move forward with our divorce? If you answered yes to this question, then now is an appropriate time to contact me. But if you haven’t spoken to your spouse about divorce yet or are just in the early stages of contemplating a divorce but aren’t really sure you want to move forward, then it may be a bit premature to move forward and you should continue to gather information and read the articles on our website until you can both answer yes to this question.  Even if you do both answer yes, does that mean you have to be happy about moving forward or that you’re both getting along and that’s the only time you both can come in for a free consultation or begin the divorce mediation process?  Of course not. If you were, you wouldn’t be seeking the services of a New Jersey divorce mediator like me.

One last thing to keep in mind is that sadly not everyone can use divorce mediation to settle their differences.  If your spouse is just so stubborn that they systematically refuse to move forward with a divorce or if you’re fighting so much that being in the same room and attempting to communicate would be an impossible affair, then perhaps divorce mediation is not for you.  But if you’re like 98% of the couples that call me, even if it’s very early on in the process, then yes, divorce mediation is a possibility.  Just keep in mind the one question that is most important to answer and call me when you’re ready.

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Joseph Dillon is an Accredited Divorce Mediator in NJ and the owner of and lead mediator for Equitable Mediation Services a New Jersey divorce mediation practice serving Somerset, Mercer, Middlesex, Essex, Morris, Union and Hunterdon counties including the towns of Edison, Parsippany, East Brunswick, West Orange, Bridgewater, South Brunswick, Hillsborough, Livingston, Randolph, Maplewood, West Windsor, Summit, Plainsboro, Millburn, Morristown, Montgomery, Madison, Readington, Branchburg, Warren, Princeton, Metuchen, Lawrenceville, Pennington, Short Hills, Bernards, Bedminster and surrounding areas.

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