Mediation Can Keep Divorce From Taking Over Your Life

As a New Jersey divorce mediator, I am often faced with individuals who under the crushing weight of a divorce have a hard time keeping things together and it’s no surprise.  I’ve heard divorce is second only to the death of a loved one in terms of the emotional toll it takes on a person so it’s only natural that it would take over your life but there is a path you can take that puts you in control and helps minimize the toll and it’s called divorce mediation.  Divorce mediation can lift the burden of some of that stress by keeping things in check and focusing the conversation on the issues that matter most at a time when you are prepared to deal with them.  Like the old saying goes “nobody like surprises except on their birthday” and with divorce it’s no different.  When using attorneys to handle your divorce be it through litigating or the still contentious collaborative divorce process, you’re never sure when that next phone call, letter or e-mail is going to come with some new demand or wrinkle and throw you off your game.  Suddenly, you no longer control your own divorce and you’re being reminded of what you’re going through at every turn by someone who quite frankly, could care less about you.

But with divorce mediation, you are in complete control because last time I checked, it was your divorce!  With the help of an accredited professional NJ divorce mediator, you choose where and when you want to talk about your divorce thereby reducing the stress often associated with not knowing where the next surprise is going to come from.  The issues are presented to you in clear, easy to understand terms (I mean really, how stressful is it when you’re being asked to make decisions that will impact you the rest of your life and it’s written in some legalese that sounds like Shakespeare!) and discussed in an organized and efficient manner thereby reducing all the contentious back and forth (and tremendous costs) often associated with divorces involving attorneys.  By taking a measure of control over what is happening to you, your decision making process is clearer and you are able to move on with your life sooner than if you were to relinquish control to a complete stranger.  You probably already feel completely out of control as your world has been turned upside down and so why not empower yourself by using divorce mediation?  Thousands of New Jersey couples have, so why not you?

If you have any questions about divorce mediation or how mediation can benefit you, please feel free to contact us to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation in one of our seven North or Central New Jersey office locations where we will take some time to get to know more about you and your situation and see if mediation is right for you.  Of if you’re simply not ready yet, feel free to visit the Equitable Mediation Services website where you’ll find lots of great information about parenting plans, equitable distribution, NJ child support and spousal support / alimony and contact us when you’re ready.  We look forward to helping you get through your divorce peacefully, efficiently and with as little stress on you and your family as possible.