Can Mediation Lead to a Happy Divorce?

One thing I love about the Internet is the ability to be informed on just about any topic by putting together a Google Alert and letting it pop up in your Inbox once a day with stories of relevance to you.  The subjects can range (in my case) from divorce mediation services to parenting plans to child support and all mediation issues in between but I’m sure if you wanted to. they could cover hobbies, sporting events or a host of other topics.   Today I received an interesting alert with a short article from a woman in California who gave her three secrets to a happy divorce.  You’re probably thinking “happy divorce?”  Yes, I’ll admit it, I thought that too and I’m a divorce mediator in New Jersey!

In it she explained how she has learned to become more patient, flexible and tolerant of the differing parenting styles between she and her ex-spouse (a common source of contention) and that during it all, she learned a lot about herself and how to act more like an adult (one example: type that e-mail but don’t hit send right away) and not argue in front of the kids (an excellent idea if I ever heard one but easier said than done).

One of her tips for a happy divorce was hire a mediator and I couldn’t agree more. By focusing on the solutions instead of the problems and by looking forward instead of back, a New Jersey divorce mediator can help you work through the issues both legal and emotional and draft an agreement that works for both of you and your children.  And while I can’t say at the end of the process you’ll be jumping for joy and celebrating your divorce, I can tell you that couples who use a mediator get better results in less time and for far less money than those who pursue a more traditional route of hiring a lawyer and litigating.  And that’s something anyone can be happy about.

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If you have any questions about divorce mediation or how mediation can benefit you, please feel free to contact us to schedule a free, no-obligation consultation in one of our six central New Jersey office locations where we will take some time to get to know more about you and your situation and see if mediation is right for you.  Of if you’re simply not ready yet, feel free to visit the Equitable Mediation Services website where you’ll find lots of great information about parenting plans, equitable distribution, NJ child support and spousal support / alimony and contact us when you’re ready.  We look forward to helping you get through your divorce peacefully, efficiently and with as little stress on you and your family as possible.