Choosing a Divorce Mediator – Part II

As mentioned in Wednesday’s post, we at Equitable Mediation Services feel there are four things that make a great divorce mediator:

1. Subject Matter Expertise
2. Experience
3. Professional Affiliations
4. Personality

In today’s post I’d like to address the concept of experience and how we feel it relates to divorce mediation sessions with Equitable Mediation Services.

First some background on mediation in the State of NJ.  While the concept of mediation has been around for thousands of years dating back to ancient Rome, using mediation to settle divorce cases is relatively new.  In 2004, the State of NJ passed the NJ Uniform Mediation Act which outlined the rules surrounding divorce mediation in New Jersey.  This landmark legislation paved the way for what we know today to be the smarter way to divorce for couples in NJ but that doesn’t mean people weren’t practicing mediation long before that.

You see, I’ve been doing mediation long before it ever became a formalized concept for divorcing couples.  For the past 18+ years, I’ve been mediating disputes of all kinds ranging from ones involving large, multi-national corporations to small business owners to individuals just like you.  I’ve been involved in mediations involving multiple parties and teams of attorneys right on down to just three people in a room trying to work through their differences so they can divorce.

Not only have I handled cases involving divorce, I’ve also worked on mediations involving financial matters, real estate matters, personal property, intellectual property and copyright.  I’ve worked with a broad spectrum of people from all over the world and have come to learn and appreciate each and every one of their unique wants, needs and communication styles.  I’ve spent thousands of hours in situations such as these and treat each and every mediation as unique because the fact of the matter is: each one is unique.

The thing about being a NJ divorce mediator is that there are a lot of people who can claim they are a mediator.  Get yourself a business card and you’re all set.  But do you really know what you’re getting into?  In this emotional time such as your divorce, don’t you want someone with the knowledge and experience to make sure your divorce goes as peacefully and efficiently as possible?  Someone who can take their broad spectrum of knowledge and apply it to your unique situation?  That’s what we feel makes Equitable mediation Services the preferred choice for divorcing couples.

In Monday’s post I’ll talk about the third area that makes a great divorce mediator: professional affiliations so please return to read more at that time.  However, if in the meantime you have any questions about divorce mediation or how mediation can benefit you, please feel free to contact us and set up a free, no-obligation appointment at one of our six central NJ office locations.  We will answer any questions you might have about divorce, mediation and how we may assist you at this most difficult time because we know that once you learn more about divorce mediation you’ll agree it truly is the smarter way to divorce.