Divorce is not a New Years Resolution

Invariably at this time of year, the phone at Equitable Mediation Services rings frequently with individuals inquiring about divorce mediation.  Perhaps it’s the time of year when our thoughts turn to New Year’s resolutions and thinking that we don’t want to spend another year like this but making a resolution to get divorced is not necessarily the best idea.  Divorce requires some serious thought.

People think that as a NJ divorce mediator, I am pro-divorce.  That is simply not the case.  I am for helping people who have made the decision to divorce manage their divorce through mediation in a peaceful and efficient manner with as little stress and impact on them and their family as possible.  No doubt divorce is a major life trauma, second only to the death of a parent or spouse and my role is not to promote divorce by any means but rather to minimize the conflict and help couples resolve the issues through mediation and come to an agreement that works for both of them, and their children if applicable.

I feel it’s important for couples to consider all of their options before proceeding with a divorce but once the decision is made, divorce mediation truly is your best alternative to a messy, litigated, attorney-driven divorce.  There are many benefits of mediation, of that there is no doubt and the road will be difficult at times, but with a little preparation and perseverance you will get through it one step at a time with my help.

For a checklist of items you will need to prepare for divorce mediation, please visit our helpful resources section and click on the link for Forms / Worksheets.  In the meantime, should you have any questions, please feel free to contact us and we’ll do our best to answer any questions you may have about divorce, mediation or the process in general.  We realize you have a choice when it comes to divorce mediation services and we at Equitable Mediation Services want to thank you for the trust you’ve put in us this year and look forward to helping you in your time of need in the coming year.